tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869382044359070211.post1721431601147131707..comments2023-11-02T07:02:05.836-07:00Comments on Day By Day with RA: GuiltBusy Mom!http://www.blogger.com/profile/14820726555469126290noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869382044359070211.post-69967578202629146662012-04-21T18:16:08.059-07:002012-04-21T18:16:08.059-07:00Hello there. I know how you feel. I suffer from R...Hello there. I know how you feel. I suffer from RA as well, first diagnosed when my oldest son was born. I have 3 young boys and weekends are the hardest on me physically since I have to attempt to keep up with their energy levels! My feet are screaming at me after an active day playing outside with them. I feel guilty that there are a lot of things I can't do. I got depressed for while there before baby #3 came along. <br /><br />I decided finally, I am not like other Supermoms I would compare myself to. Trying to keep up with the standard of what kind of mom I should be was exhausting and stressful. I started letting go of expectations. I hired a cleaning service to help with housework, I ask my oldest son and my Superhubby for help, I sit and rest any time my feet can't take it (and ignore that housework looming over my head), I find quiet sitting activities to enjoy with my kids (building Legos, painting and play doh) when my feet need a break. Most of all I started my own blog where I focus on the small victories I accomplish in my day. I am in the process of moving it from blogger (www.momssmallvictories.blogspot.com) to my own domain (www.momssmallvictories.com). But just writing about the positive things I accomplish certainly helps me focus on the bright side..whether its finishing a good book I read, reading a useful RA story or making a meal my family enjoyed, I write about it. <br /><br />I know it's hard not to feel guilty but you need to try. Stress makes me flare worse than usual. In one stress management class I took, the instructor said you shouldn't stress over the things you can't control. I think that's true. You can't control that you have RA and you can't control how others feel. What you can do is control how you feel and dont let RA get the best of you! Those kids and your loving family is what's important. Just do what you can do cause your family doesn't want to see you overdo it and then suffer pain later. Best of luck to you!! Sorry for the really long comment!Tanyahttp://www.momssmallvictories.comnoreply@blogger.com