Friday, May 4, 2012

The pain has relocated....

This week I have a new "flare-zone". It is so odd how the pain relocates itself. Never giving any relief. My left knee has been giving me more and more pain everyday. Stairs are very difficult and I avoid them if I can. This is difficult in my house as there is no bathroom on the main level!!! I am finding that each different joint flare up seems to cause more and more pain. The good thing I have going right now is being off of work has rested my shoulders and they only give me difficulty if I over use them or extend too far. So that is good. Right? The non-RA bad news is being off of work puts more stress on me as we are struggling financially and medical bills along with others are adding up fast! More stress equals more pain....UGH.

It moved to my knees. Until now, they have only ached, it has been my wrists, fingers, shoulder, toes and ankles causing me pain. Now add in the knees. I do not sleep well as it is. I lie there thinking about which joint hurts more. Which one I need to avoid laying on. Which one has been the stiffest. On top of the pain, all the meds cause insomnia. There is nothing worse than being in pain and utterly exhausted and unable to sleep. My best sleep time is my one hour nap during the day. It is the only time I wake up and think "that was good sleep".  SUCKS!!!! I should be in bed now. I would except I find if I stay up as long as I possibly can I might get a few hours of sleep. The lack of sleep, the pain, the frustration makes me bitchy. I don't like to be bitchy. I like to sleep. I have added 9 new medications in the last 3 months and do not want to add a sleep aid also.

I need to feel better. I want to try meditation and yoga but both need energy and motivation. It is hard to motivate myself to do much of anything other than hang out with my boys and some days I have to force myself to do that! With the new pains in my knee, I get more scared. I am freaking out inside! I like walking. I do not want this to be the start of the end of that.  This joint is one I need to be mobile. For 2 days I have not even wanted to put any weight on it. I have, as I am not in a point in my life where I can stay in bed. I just tried to limit the amount of walking, standing, and other activities being on my feet. I cannot tell you how many times in the last 2 days I told my kids "please understand, my knee really hurts and I need to sit". My 2 year old will then check my knee out, see no band aid, kiss it and say ok all better wanna play now? Makes me smile and makes my heartbreak at the same time.
The DH seems not to understand either. I probably told him more than I told the kids and he just shrugs it off and says "its always something", or "really" come on. I am tired of trying to beg him for help. I feel that I should not have to. It makes me sad.

Like I said, I am taking some time off, hoping the new meds will be of some help and I can find some relief. I notice that it is having some positive effects. I have a little more energy. I get a small nap in. I can last longer. It has helped my feet some. They do not ache all day. Still swollen but currently not the major source of my pain. Well I need to try to go to sleep now. Just wanted to jot some things down. Until next time, I appreciate you all listening to me!!


  1. This is a beautiful and well-organized blog. I am Rachel and I have JRA. I'm in middle school so it's a little bit different for me, but I keep a blog to ( I have read several of your posts now and they are really well-written! Thank you for being a reason to wake up in the morning and move my stiff joints out of bed ;)


  2. Thanks for the kind words Rachel! I am not a pro but I do it to make myself feel better and get advice and the word out on what is going on, what helps, ways to do things easier etc...I got dx'd at 33 so I can only imagine how you feel! I will check out your blog! Hang In there!

  3. I wish others could be more understanding...:(...
    Looking forward to reading Rachel's blog to...
    Both of you make me feel less helpless and more hopeful.